If you took a survey, which ironically I actually did, and asked your closest friends for adjectives that best described you – do you think you’d be surprised by their replies?
I wasn’t fishing for compliments and that is exactly what I told my dear friends, I was just doing some research. I informed them that the adjectives did not ALL have to be complimentary either – hopefully the negatives wouldn’t be the first adjectives that popped into their heads but with some of the people I surveyed, those very easily could have been their first thoughts!
Do your friends see you as you see yourself? Does it matter? More often than not how you see yourself is a reflection of how you “feel” and how your friends see you, is how you portray yourself. Hopefully the two are similar but variations in those perspectives will always be present and can also be very enlightening. That’s what makes this “research” so intriguing and introspective. I was surprised to read what they came back with. I also thought it was telling in a way that expressed what you bring to that friend and that friendship.
I was humbled, humored and even reminded of some of my less noteworthy characteristics.
Some of my favorites: complex, true, luminous, exciting, trusting, spontaneous, convivial, mad-sexy, confident, beautiful, talented, spunky,charismatic, brave, dedicated
Some of my reminders: defensive, obstinate, cantankerous, moody
Some adjectives I would have written for myself but that didn’t come up: passionate, sensible ( stop laughing, I AM sensible), sentimental, and vivacious.
Do some “research”, see what you uncover. For me, it was 2 days of delightful surprises and confirmation that my friends & family are truly amazing, supportive and THE BEST any girl could wish for.
So now that you have all of these wonderfully thoughtful, uplifting adjectives about yourself, what do you do?
Create a word cloud, print it and look at it everyday and remember you have all these amazing attributes.
Wordle is a free site where you can generate “word clouds” from text you provide.You can tweak your clouds’ font, layout, and colors. The images you create from Wordle are yours to use however you like. It’s a really fun tool and a great way to capture and display your “research.” I’ve also used it to creatively display poems I love, or as a reminder to my kids of all their “wonderfulness” and as a thoughful gift to friends, parents or teachers.